Other than extra pounds and debt, this time of year usually always gives us all a huge REALITY CHECK! We realize who our real friends are, who never were, if you're the main boo, or the side piece, and so on. How do we realize this? Actions speak louder than words.
I can only speak from my personal experiences, or those of my friends; but most likely some of you can relate. Also, remember there is a difference between friends and associates. You expect way more from someone you actually consider a friend. Hmm but that's a whole different topic that I can blog about later...so yea.
Real friends and/or a beau will more than likely get you a gift. Unless they are broke or cheap. Y'all should already have that understanding, with the "I love you, but I'm broke" convo, though. The others don't even think about exchanging gifts. You know why? Their money already went to their close friends and family. Sorry! No money is left over.
Other than getting gifts, you're also invited to the holiday get togethers. When there's a party, people invite their friends. If you only know about a party by looking at the pics on Facebook or seeing Twitter updates...ehh y'all might not be as cool as you thought. If an event allows them to bring only one guest, it'll most likely be their boo. If that person isn't you--you're most likely the side piece. Also, if you only get text messages or phone calls versus actual quality time...guess what? It's because they're with the main boo. (i.e.: Tiger Woods)
Ultimately, someone who really cares knows their presence is worth more than any present though. So if you can relate to any of the situations then you may need a reality check. Don't make anyone a priority when you're only an option.Can you relate?? Do y'all have any "reality check" moments to add?? Please share. It might help someone. Or just help you vent.
Yes, there is definitely a difference between friends and associates, and the older you become the better you should be able to differentiate between the two.
ReplyDeleteI suppose my reality check moment of the holiday season, and of the year for that matter was realizing that I had to let a friendship go, if a friendship is what you could really call...when it was me being a friend and the other person not really doing much lol. The reality set in that things would just NEVER change and I had to stop sitting around waiting for things to improve. I wish that person the best...and I'm happy to be free of the weight because that person was definitely a heavy!
Yes, there is definitely a difference between friends and associates, and the older you become the better you should be able to differentiate between the two.
ReplyDeleteI suppose my reality check moment of the holiday season, and of the year for that matter was realizing that I had to let a friendship go, if a friendship is what you could really call...when it was me being a friend and the other person not really doing much lol. The reality set in that things would just NEVER change and I had to stop sitting around waiting for things to improve. I wish that person the best...and I'm happy to be free of the weight because that person was deifnitely a heavy!