Friday, July 16, 2010

Apparently I passed the character limit for a blog sent via text. I will have to edit the entry later. Oops
tips that will help me along with my would be greatly appreciated. Hopefully I will be able to inspire others too! :) Wish me luck! Later xoxo
deos about ladies who are going and/or went natural give me inspiration though. When I get a good webcam I will vlog too. Anyone w/ #naturalhair who has
et. But I'm going to decide THIS weekend. I will be taking out these Senegalese twists. What I will do next...I'm not sure yet. Watching these Youtube vi
sts. Now I'm thinking about finally just doing the big chop aka the BC. I'm kinda scared though. I'm not sure if I will like it. What responses I might g
y last relaxer was in I'm in month 7 of the transition. I've been doing a lot of protective styles like roller sets, weaves, braids, and twi
Hey there! Well to those who don't know...I'm transitioning from relaxed to natural hair. This is my 2nd attempt! Except this time, I'm actually ready. M

Friday, April 30, 2010

Friend(s) With Benefits (FWB): Can it work??!

Heyyy!!  Long time, no blog! Been busy with this thing called life. So, I swore I would blog more. Umm yea. No success. Forgive me! :)

So anyway, as I asked in the title...can FWB work??!

In my most recent personal experience, it didn't. Luckily, my friend and I are were able to remain friends. But, that was after dealing with drama.

I think the main issue with having a FWB is that feelings get involved. At times, one may have deeper feelings than another. So things get difficult when one or both people start liking/talking to someone else. The easy solution to this dilemma would be "keep it real" right?! Those of you who have been there knows it's not that easy. You don't want to hurt your friends feelings, but at the same time you want to be honest.

Then the other questions are:
 "Does that mean the 'benefits' stop for the FWB when there's someone new?"
"Should/Can FWB remain friends if the 'benefits' stop?"

These situations can cause a lot of drama, feelings to get hurt, and/or friendships to end. Although it may be difficult, honesty is the best policy -- if you want to remain friends with the FWB. It's better to hear the truth from the person you've been involved with, versus other friends or social networking sites like Facebook or Twitter.

FWB isn't for everyone, but in some cases it has worked. Communication and honesty is the key to any relationship though. Otherwise there isn't any trust.

Well these are just my opinions and questions about FWB. I would like to know yours though! Has it worked for you or someone you know? Why or why not??

Monday, March 15, 2010

Hair Blues

Like India Aries says, "I AM NOT MY HAIR!" That doesn't make it any easier to deal with my hair blues though. After JUST (yes, I know I'm laaate!) watching Chris Rock's "Good Hair," it was just confirmed. But the documentary really made me start thinking.

 Ever since I can remember, I've had relaxed hair. When I was younger, I suffered alot of damage and my hair was never healthy. For the last three years I've been going to the same stylist and finally it grows so I got some hang time and it's healthier than ever. KUDOS to her...and me! When I first started going to her I had a short cut and now its past my shoulders. Since she's been doing my hair I've done color, cuts, weaves, and more. Yea, fried, dyed, and laid to the side more than a lil bit! Aye...I like variety and I get bored! lol

So far I've had three weaves. It's kind of a love/hate relationship. I love it when I first get it done. Then I hate it when I start to get tired of the same style, it itches, the maintenance. Ughhh! Other than that, you have to deal with the weave critics. Its funny that some people think that every person who wears a weave has unhealthy hair or that she's superficial. There's probably other opinions, but I wont even entertain them. Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion though. SMH Their ignorance irks me. Hmmmph not enough for me not to still be thinking about getting one though!

Lately, I've been going back and forth with the decision to go natural. I've tried, and failed. I got my sister and my friend to go natural, yet I gave up while transitioning. My sis has been going a year strong and my cousin has shoulder length dreads now. I don't know, guess I really am addicted to the CREAMY CRACK! Watching "Good Hair" seriously made me think about attempting to transition to natural again though. I didn't realize how dangerous sodium hydroxide, better known as relaxers, are. More importantly, I didnt really think about how oppressed we are by our hair. How over the years we have made advances to create products to make our naturaly curly and/or kinky hair emulate our White sista's grain. Time will tell though. Might just have to get my daily inspiration from my natural sistas on Youtube.

Welp that's my Hair Blues rant...

Relate? Comments? Questions? Suggestions? I'd love to read.


Saturday, March 13, 2010

Long time, no blog...

Wow! It has been MONTHS since I blogged. Miss me?? I always think of good topics, when I'm too busy to actually type one. Soooo I will try to blog at LEAST once a week. Stay tuned! How ya luhhhh dat??! ;)

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Show Haiti that you CARE!

On January 12, 2010 Haiti was hit by a 7.0 magnitude earthquake! Instead of just "feeling sorry" for to all those that suffered...DO SOMETHING! Show you care by sending a dontation. Although I'm pretty sure most of us can spare at least $5.00, monetary donations are not required. Send canned goods, clothes, shoes, etc. My prayers go out to Haiti and all their family and friends. Go to to find out how YOU can help with the relief.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Reality Check

Hey y'all!! So the holiday season is officially over. YESSSS!! As much as I love the holidays, I'm glad it's over. It always brings the pressure to "show you care" by swiping a credit card, grinning and bearing someone's cooking, and/or gratefully accepting gifts even when you don't like it. Ehhh but I hope you all enjoyed the time with your family and friends though! For those who didn't, I send some e-love over your way boo!

Other than extra pounds and debt, this time of year usually always gives us all a huge REALITY CHECK! We realize who our real friends are, who never were, if you're the main boo, or the side piece, and so on. How do we realize this? Actions speak louder than words.

I can only speak from my personal experiences, or those of my friends; but most likely some of you can relate. Also, remember there is a difference between friends and associates. You expect way more from someone you actually consider a friend. Hmm but that's a whole different topic that I can blog about yea.

Real friends and/or a beau will more than likely get you a gift. Unless they are broke or cheap. Y'all should already have that understanding, with the "I love you, but I'm broke" convo, though. The others don't even think about exchanging gifts. You know why? Their money already went to their close friends and family. Sorry! No money is left over.

Other than getting gifts, you're also invited to the holiday get togethers. When there's a party, people invite their friends. If you only know about a party by looking at the pics on Facebook or seeing Twitter updates...ehh y'all might not be as cool as you thought. If an event allows them to bring only one guest, it'll most likely be their boo. If that person isn't you--you're most likely the side piece. Also, if you only get text messages or phone calls versus actual quality time...guess what? It's because they're with the main boo. (i.e.: Tiger Woods)

Ultimately, someone who really cares knows their presence is worth more than any present though. So if you can relate to any of the situations then you may need a reality check. Don't make anyone a priority when you're only an option.

Can you relate?? Do y'all have any "reality check" moments to add?? Please share. It might help someone. Or just help you vent.